Save The Relationship

Reconnect Your Relationship – In Case of Relationship Emergency – Don’t Call 911

Anton — Sat, 03 Apr 2010 16:59:41 +0000

by T Dub Jackson, author of The Magic Of Making Up System

You smell the smoke, hear the crackle of a flame and
start to swoon from the searing heat.

and…

You suspect there’s about to be a raging fire.

But the fire and carnage you fear won’t be from
any material possessions lost, but from something much
more precious, a once loving relationship going up in flames.

No matter what issue set your fire ablaze, many
of us don’t know where or how to begin applying
the water to put the fire out.

In fact…

Unlike a real fire where a fireman first looks to
find, attack and cool the source of the fire (if possible).

Many times attacking the center of the heat is the WRONG approach to take
when trying to extinguish our relationship problems and fires.

For example, let’s imagine that since this ‘recession’
your relationship has flamed up some worrisome financial fires.

Not too hard to imagine these days?

These may start as little brush fires, small issues and arguments
over how and where money is being spent…or not spent.

Then, maybe because of the heat and pressure of these
financial fires one partner starts ‘escaping’ more than
is healthy for the relationship.

He escapes into TV, Video Games, Alcohol, Cyber
Porn…or worse?

Now…what do we have?

We’ve got two fires smoldering away and soon to be a third because
the other partner is starting to feel lonely and isolated.

Can you almost feel the pressure?

Feel it coming to a boil?

Now with three fires off to a crackling start there’s
even greater risk of fire and damage spreading to other areas.

So? Just which fire do we put out first?

Our financial fire? Our financial blaze seems pretty tough to
extinguish right now and not likely to die soon.

So maybe we should start with the escapism? That seems
like an easy fire to put out…IF you’re not the one escaping!

…and try telling someone that’s feeling lonely and isolated
that “they should just snap out of it” is like throwing fuel
into the fire.

So where do we begin when we don’t see any
good place to start? And we finally realize that
trying to stomp out all our blazes at once actually spreads
the fire?…FASTER!

The answer is…

Unlike fighting a REAL fire, we start where there
IS NO FIRE.

Yes, start where there is absolutely no smoke, no heat
and no flame.

What we need to do is stop focusing on the problem(s)
and focus on where we still have passion…even if
it’s just a little.

Find even the tiniest things you both enjoy doing
together, ACTIVELY put your problems aside and begin to
rebuild the passion between you.

And do you know what invariably happens? Often once you’ve
rekindled the passion between you…the PROBLEMS will often work
themselves out.

The fires extinguish themselves.

Here’s how it may play out using our example;

Tom and Cindy both love cooking together.

They both actively decide to let their problems
go and NOT worry about them for awhile, but to start
by cooking dinner together and EATING together at
the dinner table…EVERY night.

Often because they’ve had such a great time cooking
and eating together…they play some cards or monopoly
after wards and share some laughs and have a little fun.

Now, because Cindy isn’t feeling so isolated because
Tom’s always watching TV or surfing the web…

That little bit of fun turns into love making a little
more often.

Which in part…leads to…

Tom starting to feel better, finds new confidence,
and as his confidence builds… Tom gets more assertive
about finding work.

Soon…

Tom lands what maybe not the best job in the world, but one
that relieves a lot of the financial pressure until he
can find his perfect fit.

And before your very eyes…

Where Tom and Cindy’s relationship was about to burst
into flames…

Now, they are rising from the rubble with
a stronger and more fire proof marriage than ever before.

The moral of the story is that with enough PASSION
couples can overcome most any problem including affairs, drug use,
even death in the family.

But when there is very little passion even the tiniest
problems…become big, out of control, blazing fires.

Now if you’re reading this, but feel that an out
of control fire has already ‘gutted’ and put an end to your
relationship. You may find it comforting to know that there
may be a second chance for you?

I’ve made some amazing new breakthroughs in the human
love, bonding and RE-BONDING process.

Many of these breakthroughs are just as counter-intuitive
as the technique I’ve just handed you here.

I’ve made a special video with you in mind where I share
one of my counter-intuitive rebounding techniques.

You’re invited to watch here:

HOW TO GET YOUR EX BACK VIDEO

While I’m a little bumbly and no Brad Pitt on camera…

…the video has been watched over 893,000 times (rated 4 1/2 stars) and
it’s rare for a day to go by where I don’t receive a really heart
warming note from someone that has put their relationship back
together after going through hell and fearing they’d never
find their way back.

Hope it helps you too:-)

T Dub Jackson
MagicOfMakingUp.com

Learn How To Calm Your Mind During Your Breakup

Anton — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 14:38:40 +0000

Reconnect Relationship – The Best Way To Save Your Marriage

Anton — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 15:51:30 +0000

At some point in time, many wedded partners would inquire themselves this question. No matter how strong your relationship is, there is always room for improvement as well. Perhaps the only way to keep a marriage vibrant and happy is to put in a lot of effort from both sides. Some easy things to consider that will help you and your partner work through your issues are:

Be aware of the Problem

Analyze the problem threadbare and discuss it honestly with your spouse. Looking into one’s self to start it off is just one thing that would be essential of you thus making this process one of the hardest thing to do. The first step to fix the issues in your marriage is to be able to recognize the root of the problem hand in hand with your spouse that even though you may not like what you will discover, still, dealing with it will just open the doors towards a better relationship.

Meaningful personal interaction

Any relationship lasts when two people talk to each other meaningfully. Perhaps your lives have gotten hectic with work and children and family duties. It is imperative that you keep aside some time, as a daily routine to sit down and communicate with your spouse. One ingredient that also plays a major role here is being honest not just to yourself but more importantly to your partner. If we try to become better listener and supporter to our partners, we could really gain a lot that could help better our relationships so it is really recommended to give an effort to work out your communications with your spouse. The only way to reach out and find this nook is when you interact with each other.

Esteem

The regard, with which you treat one another, is another important ingredient. Do you both quarrel often? Do you call each other names, abuse or blame each other all the time? Getting to that kind of situation is not that difficult to do especially when things seem to be harsh on both of you. When you regard your spouse in high esteem, you can in reality bypass and amend several errors of the past. Think back to when you met your partner and how you treated one another from the beginning – how have things changed?

Think of friendship and closeness

When a marriage going through a bad patch often results in loss of intimacy and friendship and that is a big loss. The allocation of time to connect with each other and make that link between the two of you even unbreakable can truly lend a hand during tough times. Sexual intimacy is another marital harmony restorer as it promotes physical and mental closeness once again. Sex activity is often unthinkable when things are just not right between the two of you, but if you really try hard, then it could yield positive results. Generally, it may really be difficult to save a marriage from falling apart, although this can be done easily and may give out better results if both the couples are determined and committed enough to make things work.

Getting Back With Your Ex

Anton — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 01:18:57 +0000

Getting back with your partner is not an easy thing to do, especially if you are that desperate you want them back as quick as possible. It may be very difficult to accomplish this but that does not mean it can’t be done. Fortunately for you, there are a number of things that you can do to achieve this goal, some of the things are listed below. Do keep in mind, however, that getting your ex back in your life needs to be done with the utmost care, especially since you are dealing with a person s feelings aside from your own. Though such is the case, it doesn t mean that you can t do it in record time. Listed below are just a few of the things that you can do to achieve that.

Make Your Ex Miss You

One of the best ways that you can make your ex want to get back together with you is by simply making them miss you and miss having you in their life. Although it is difficult to make someone miss you, you can still do this by allowing your ex some time away from you, meaning that you allow some distance between you and your ex so your ex can actually experience life without you in it. This can actually backfire on you as well, especially if you weren’t that good in the relationship to be missed, but hopefully, after spending some time away from you, your ex will miss having you in her life. You don t need to worry too much, though, since there are still a few things that you can do to make your ex miss you.

Make Yourself More Attractive

Improving on your appearance more is also another thing that you can do to help make your ex think about you and see you in a much better light than how your ex use to when you broke up. Remember that nobody wants to be with another person who looks crappy and very unappealing. You want your ex to want you, and improving on your looks is one way to do just that.

Use Your Past

Being in a relationship with your ex before does offer you a lot of advantages, such as having some insider information about what she likes and what she dislikes. This information can help a lot, as you can use this to show them exactly what they are missing. One other thing you can do is to remind them of the good things they liked about you, for example you could play a song you’ll both liked, or even where the shirt she liked you to wear. This will not only rekindle any memory that they may have about you and your relationship, but this will also show them that you value what they say and like, and that you care enough to try and impress them with it. These few simple rules, if followed correctly, should help you get your ex back as long as you are prepared in the work.

Relationship Break Up Advice – What Not To Do To Get Your Ex Back

Anton — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 18:45:46 +0000

Finding relationship break up advice on what to do is extremely important, but you have to know what not to do as well. Have you ever tried to get back together with your ex, but ended up putting a much bigger wedge between you both simply because you did a couple of things wrong? Well, fortunately for you, there are ways that you can actually prevent this from happening by simply knowing what you should not do when you are trying to get back together with your ex.

Don t Be Possessive/Clingy

People sometimes have a hard time letting their ex s go, especially if they still are not willing to let go as of yet. The last thing you want to do is to be too possessive, you’ll need to get over your breakup and let her get on with the rest of her life.. You must remember that she has now moved on, it doesn’t matter what you think about your relationship, the fact is she has moved on.. Allow your ex to talk, and possibly, go out with other people. By allowing her the freedom to do what she wants, you will show her that you respect her and this may make her miss you.

Don t Be Pushy

Getting back with your ex can take some time, so be patient. It may take some time for both of you to get back together and that isn t even a reassurance that you both will. The point is, if you don t want to hurt your chances of getting back together with your ex, then you should allow things to run its course. Don t push her to make decisions she is not ready to make for this will only force her to resent you and get annoyed by your actions.

Don t Be Desperate

When you try to beg to get her back, you will only succeeding in making yourself appear very desperate, and desperation is by no means attractive to anybody. When you do this, you are only pushing your ex away, thereby limiting your chances of getting back together with her.

Don t Make Your Ex Jealous

Although in most movies, making your ex jealous with a new lover or partner is the way to get your ex to get back together with you, in reality this rarely works. Provoking your ex with such an act only creates more problems as this can force your ex to do the same thing to you, resulting in a never ending exchange. In the long run, this will hurt you both instead of getting you back together.

Getting back with your ex can be a rough or smooth process, it all depends on the techniques you use. Hopefully, after you have read this article, you should have an idea as to how to go about getting your ex back into your life.

Transitioning From A Breakup To Getting Back Together

Anton — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 06:13:08 +0000

Once you have broken up with your ex it is not easy to get back with them, we hope to give you some useful tips which will help you with this task. Although not a lot of people focus too much on the transitioning process from a break up to getting back together, it is still an important part of the entire getting back together process. You really need to know how to transition well in order to avoid any problems with getting back with your ex successfully. Here are a few things that might help you transition smoothly from a break up to getting back together.

First of all recognize that you are actually broken up. The transition from a breakup to getting back with your partner will be much easier if you actually acknowledge the facts that you have broken up. This will make you understand that you are actually not together anymore, which is why you need to come to a resolution with your ex. You will be able to figure out how to come to a resolution with your ex if you understand the process of why you broke open in the first place.

Forgive And Forget

If you want to stand any chance of getting back together, you will need to look at all the faults and shortcomings in your relationship and learn from them. These shortcomings need to be forgotten if you want any chance of getting back together. If you don’t analyze what went wrong in the past you are doomed to failure once again, all the things you didn’t like about your partner will resurface if they have not been resolved and will cause problems once again.

Create A Resolution

You both need to come off with a resolution so that you can both move on to your new relationship, you need to talk to each other about these issues. It doesn’t matter if it means changing some aspects of your relationship, or by coming up with some compromises. It can vary depending on every relationship, as well as on the factors that caused the relationship to fail previously.

Start Anew

Once you and your ex have agreed on a resolution, it is very important to remember that you are starting anew. This means that although you both were in a relationship before, it doesn t mean that you can bypass the getting back together process and simply be a couple instantly. Since your previous relationship has failed, it is safe to say that starting anew is the best thing for you and your ex to do, so take the time to get to know each other once again just to start things off.

There is simply no shortcuts when you are trying to get back with your ex, but if you really want your partner back you should really consider taking your time to make sure it works this time round.

Should You Get Back With Your Ex

Anton — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 07:46:14 +0000

Are you having doubts as to whether you should try and get back together with your ex or not? You might be feeling unsure as you don’t know if this is the best thing to do. Fortunately, there are ways that you can use to help make a determination on why you should get back together with your ex, and finally end your doubts about the entire thing. Here are a couple of things that might be helpful in answering your question as to why getting back together with your ex is a good idea.

You Want To

What you really need to think about is getting back with my ex something I really want to do. If you are unwilling, or if you even have doubts about it, then getting back with your ex is probably not the best thing for you to do. You will only end up breaking up once again. A relationship with this doubts in your mind will never work, you will really need to decide what you really want, so make sure you are 100% committed.

Your Ex Wants To

Look out for signals from your ex, she may ask you out on a date or talk about your past, this is a clear signal that she really wants to get back with you. You must both decide if you want to get back together again, remember, it takes two to work Relationship to make it work. If one party is not willing to get back together, then the entire process won t probably work.

Willingness To Resolve Issues

Getting back together with your ex requires that both of you need to be willing to resolve whatever issues you have in your relationship that caused you to have problems and break up. If you and your ex are expressing that you are both willing to sit down and talk and try to fix your issues and come up with a resolution for them, then that is a good indication that you might be able to successfully get back together.

Willing To Compromise

Once you have come up with a resolution for your issues, you both need to know to learn how to compromise in order to resolve your issues and successfully get back together. You both must be willing to compromise, this well ensure that both parties are happy and are willing to do what ever it takes to get back together.

This is probably one of the most important decisions you will ever make, so make sure you decide wisely and the decision you come up with is the right one for you.

Happy Valentines Day – Don’t Spend The Holiday Alone

Anton — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 18:21:06 +0000

Happy Valentines Day to everyone, or is it? How many times have you had to spend Valentines Day alone?

Nobody likes being alone and holidays seem to be those days that just remind us just how alone we are. This isn’t really the truth. The truth is that this is the way you are looking at your situation. How you perceive where you are at in your life is going to determine where you go. If this doesn’t make sense to you then I will explain a little bit more through a story of my own.

Back when I was younger and more naive, I spent a lot of holidays alone. I never minded too much, because I was used to it. Every time a holiday came around I would always wish that I had someone to share it with, but I wasn’t in the mindset of looking for what I wanted. I was focused on what I didn’t have.

I remember one Valentines Day, I went to the store to pick up some groceries. I was getting yogurt when all of the sudden I hear someone call my name and when I looked over there was a girl that I had been friends with for about a year. We were in the same Karate class together. I always had a crush on her but never had the guts to ask her out. She happened to be there with a girlfriend of hers and they were buying groceries to cook spaghetti. She actually asked me if I would like to come over and eat with them and I said no thanks.

I look back at this now and laugh, because I had the chance to spend the holiday with a beautiful single girl and I turned it down. I was so focused on the fact that I didn’t have someone in my life to spend Valentines day with that I actually created a self fulfilling prophecy to be alone.

Eventually I started dating this girl much later on and we now have two beautiful children together. I could have probably been much happier sooner if I changed the way I was looking at things.

If you are alone this Valentines Day there is something that you can do. Find a family member or friend that is alone as well and doesn’t have plans and invite them out. You will make their day guaranteed, and you will feel much better. You don’t have to have any romantic intentions what so ever. You are simply showing others that you care about that they are not alone.

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Anton — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 03:34:22 +0000

It’s not so easy for a guy to breakup with his girlfriend. It can leave you scarred for a long period of time, or worse, it can destroy whatever relationship you may have left with your ex girlfriend simply because your break up was a bad one. Fortunately, your relationship with your ex-girlfriend can be rekindled by following a few small steps. Now, getting back together with someone is no rocket science in a sense that you don t need specific instructions on how to go about doing it. Keep in mind that every person, every relationship is unique and different, and therefore requires your personal touch on each of your tasks. These steps are simply here to guide you on how to go about with the act.

Make Her Feel Wanted The easiest way to get your ex-girlfriend’s attention is to show her that you really miss her, and you want her back. there are a number of ways you can do this, such as taking her out for dinner or even sending her a bunch of flowers.. Some of these things may seem cheesy for you (or sometimes, even for her), but these things do work. Girls always have a soft spot for sweetness.

Ask For Forgiveness One of the more difficult things that most people do encounter is when they are supposed to ask for forgiveness. if it was your fault, then put your pride to one side and asked her to forgive you.. If you do this you will be showing her that you are prepared to change your ways, this will give her something to look forward to if she decides to get back to.

Offer Her Positive Change There is one sure fire way to get your girlfriend to say “yes” is if you promise that you will change the way you treated her in the past. This is one of those things you can do to fix the problems that your relationship was experiencing before. No girl can resist saying yes to an opportunity to change her man for the better, even if it means taking another crack in your relationship.

Talk, talk, talk You’d be surprised as to what this simple act can do to help improve your chances of getting back together with your ex. Talking can help open your communication with one another, and ultimately guide you in understanding one another better. You really need to discuss everything that caused your break up in the first place, this will help stop any problems in the future and at the same time gets you talking more.

It’s not hard to get back with your girlfriend, just a few simple steps can help you on your way.

Breaking Up Can Be A Frightening Experience

Anton — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 19:13:17 +0000

It’s not so easy for a guy to breakup with his girlfriend. This can be very frightening, or worse, any relationship you had with your ex-girlfriend can be destroyed because of the breakup. Fortunately for you, there is still a way that you can still rekindle your relationship with your ex by simply following a few simple steps. it’s not really rocket science, but if you want to get back with your ex-girlfriend you will need some instructions on how to start.. Your relationship with your ex-girlfriend is unique and different from anyone else’s, this will require you put your personal touch on your efforts. These steps are simply here to guide you on how to go about with the act.
Make Her Feel Wanted

One sure fire way that you can get your girlfriend to get back together with you is to make her feel wanted. There are a lot of ways that you can accomplish this, such as giving her more flowers even on days that isn’t your anniversary or her birthday. This may not be something that you regularly, but believe me these things work and your girlfriend will appreciate this.

Ask For Forgiveness

One of the most embarrassing and probably the most difficult thing to do is ask for forgiveness from your ex-girlfriend. If in your case, the fault was indeed yours, then do not hesitate to ask for your girlfriend s forgiveness. This act will show her that you are intent on changing your wrongful ways just to keep her in your life, and thereby giving her something to look forward to once she decides to get back together with you.

Offer Her Positive Change

There is one sure fire way to get your girlfriend to say “yes” is if you promise that you will change the way you treated her in the past. This is just one way that you can fix any problems you have in the past. This is one thing that your girlfriend will probably not be able to resist, the opportunity to change you for the better.

Talk, talk, talk

You’d be surprised as to what this simple act can do to help improve your chances of getting back together with your ex. Talking can help open your communication with one another, and ultimately guide you in understanding one another better. You really need to discuss everything that caused your break up in the first place, this will help stop any problems in the future and at the same time gets you talking more.

Getting back with a girlfriend can be an easy thing to accomplish, just as long as you know what to look for.